tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119343655512823452024-02-19T14:24:11.901+01:00My Ruby HeelsWriting. From my heart, sometimes from my head. I am no expert, giving advice. I have however positioned myself to live life to the fullest. A purpose driven life. And I will share my thoughts, lessons and inspirations, as I learn and receive them. I will also share lessons from the lives of those wonderful people who have so generously allowed me into theirs. Please, join us.
myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.comBlogger142125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-42650812845264764322015-01-08T11:46:00.000+01:002015-01-08T11:56:18.357+01:00Joy Over Envy.<span style="font-size: large;">I was taught from a very tender age to celebrate successes and testimonies, whether they are mine or others'. <br />I was taught to be joyful and happy when good things happen to people around me, whether they benefit me or not.<br />I was taught to celebrate with those that are celebrating, to rejoice with those that are rejoicing and to have profound respect and compassion for those that are mourning.<br /><br /> I have however, seen a lot of people do the exact opposite of these core values, and while I was also taught not to judge others nor the choices they make, I must say that I do not understand people being upset or envious when others are winning. <br /><br />And, I ask.<br />Isn't that what we were all born to do? To win and do well. <br />Aren't we all meant to thrive? To succeed and grow. <br /><br /> Why then would some rather desire for others to fail? Why would some gloat when another breaks?<br />Why would some actually go out of their way to plot the downfall of another?<br />What crooked satisfaction could one possibly derive from seeing a fellow human being broken?<br /><br /> If you know, please tell me. For, I do not.<br /><br /> And, as much as I ponder these things, I still do not comprehend it. As a matter of fact, and, you'll forgive for saying this, but I do not want to.<br />I refuse to accept that there are people who, for whatever reasons, have chosen to become so twisted as to make envy a pastime.<br /><br /> And, every single day, I make and will make the same choice. I will choose Joy over Envy.<br /> What about you? What do you choose to do when people around you accomplish great things.<br /><br /><br /> </span> myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-42026010209588072092015-01-07T12:12:00.000+01:002015-01-07T20:04:20.394+01:00Let It Rain.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxXChjAqJWKQRBgU912gbRrafDBXls9i_bpq0XrZZBILw8ZORw135igXsuO4KmOPN9I11XQszaFbfbkUFnasG_HLp7-I5TAp74q2EEfSfenwzP_pLgm7Nr0n9M_XQEvH0fRChW_XLl9EI/s1600/stock-footage-rain-water-drops-falling-over-flowers-slow-motion-shot-at-fps.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxXChjAqJWKQRBgU912gbRrafDBXls9i_bpq0XrZZBILw8ZORw135igXsuO4KmOPN9I11XQszaFbfbkUFnasG_HLp7-I5TAp74q2EEfSfenwzP_pLgm7Nr0n9M_XQEvH0fRChW_XLl9EI/s1600/stock-footage-rain-water-drops-falling-over-flowers-slow-motion-shot-at-fps.jpg" height="179" width="320" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">Most people don’t like rain. They find it inconveniencing.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Most people find an umbrella, </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">or stay indoors.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Very few people allow themselves to get wet.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Very few dare to delightfully dance in the rain and be soaked in it. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">However, </span><span style="font-size: large;">isn't it true that only after</span><span style="font-size: large;"> it rains and rains and rains,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">do we see grasses and plants sprouting from everywhere. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Overnight, you begin to see green…</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Sometimes it seems to have taken us by surprise; </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">the green, the flowers that seem to appear from nowhere, </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">all of a sudden, we might wonder where all the life and colour and green and flowers come from…</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">This is the result of rain. The effect of rain. The benefit of rain.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">When you expose yourself to rain, to be watered, to be drenched, no matter how inconveniencing, no matter how uncomfortable, you will spring forth…You will blossom. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">After you have been watered, you will grow and only then can you be able to feed others, be it their sight, their ears, their belly, or their intellect. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">You will only be able to bless yourself as well as others after you, yourself, have been blessed.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">But first you need to expose yourself to rain.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">“</span><span style="font-size: large;">Giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge, ...</span><span style="font-size: large;">”</span><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">“…Get wisdom, and in all thy gettings, get understanding”</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Allow yourself to be taught. Seek knowledge. Embrace learning.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Let rain come, allow yourself to be watered, to get wet. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">To be thoroughly soaked, to be swept away by the sheer force of it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And after you have received, remember to water others.</span>myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-54997297245978090432015-01-06T21:37:00.000+01:002015-01-06T21:37:07.295+01:00When All Is Said And Done.<span style="font-size: large;">I'm not in any hurry to stop living.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Neither do I want to repeat the same mistakes.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">I don't know if I've learnt any lessons at all</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">But when all is said and, I have no regrets.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">There are days when I feel a certain heaviness in my heart,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Days when I feel like I have nothing more to give,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Days when I can't help but struggle with all the what ifs,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Then, there are days when I'm lost in the world of dreams,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Dreams of being a princess still.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">But when all is said and done, I am thankful for all I've been given.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And, today, I felt like I can no longer give more than I have,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">I don't want to be a martyr anymore,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">I don't see to fathom the chaos that occasionally rages inside.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And, sometimes, I see with absolute clarity</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">That my life is all about giving.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">The gods seem to be always on my side,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And when all is said and done, the pains, the chaos </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">and the grace to give are what make my story what it is.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-size: large;">The hands of my clock can not be turned back,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Decisions I took can not be reversed.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">I can't wish anything away and maybe I shouldn't try.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">There are things I might never find answers to,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Maybe all for the better.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">For I am who I am because of all that I've seen and lived.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And when all is said and done, I like who I am.</span>myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-87147065718546933792015-01-04T01:56:00.003+01:002015-01-04T01:56:54.523+01:00Just Say Goodbye!<span style="font-size: large;">Sometimes in life, goodbyes are a gift! </span><span style="font-size: large;"><br />Yes, you heard me right.<br /><br />There will be times when certain people will walk away from you, and certain opportunities will close their doors on you.<br />You might think it hurts, and sometimes, it will, but the truth is that when people walk away from you, you should know to let them go. <br />Sometimes, there is absolutely no need to hold on to them or pray to keep them present in your life. <br /><br />Certain people will make the choice to shut you out. <br />Certain doors will be banged in your face.<br />Some opportunities will slip through your fingers.<br />Years will come and go. And with them, you will have to count your losses and your gains.<br /><br />And when this happen, because it will, understand and take it as possibly a direct indication that these people, circumstances and opportunities might not be the part of the plan for the next step of your life. <br /><br />Understand that if these people hadn't gone, if those opportunities hadn't been missed, the choices you would have made, would have been different. Not necessarily better nor worse. Just different. <br /><br />Understand that it might be a hint that your personal growth requires someone different and something more, and life is simply making room. <br /><br />So quit whining about your losses. </span><div>
<span style="font-size: large;">Embrace your changes as they happen. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Make room for better happenstance. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Because, you see every “goodbye” you give or receive leaves the doors open for an even better “hello.” <br /><br />So, when you need to, just say “goodbye” so you are able to say “hello"!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">P.S: When you do find the ones worth holding on to. Also know to position yourself well, so as not to ever have to say goodbye.</span></div>
myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-58673696672858815042015-01-03T17:00:00.000+01:002015-01-03T17:00:11.284+01:00The Things You Do.<span style="font-size: large;">Everyday, go out of your way to do something nice for someone else. <br />Listen.<br />Share.<br />Give.<br />Compliment.<br />Admire.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Appreciate.</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br />Love.<br />Forgive.<br />Be patient and be kind, to yourself and to the people around you.<br /><br />For it has been said that the things you do for yourself are gone when you are gone, but the things you do for others remain as your legacy. </span>myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-60429263673080800412015-01-02T02:19:00.000+01:002015-01-02T02:19:11.772+01:00I don't want to do this anymore.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixJ8LvM2117k0LdcEiE6Rqfg5vm1wa-Jojlq_pjJbVkm26arjqHwFVKvtQfjDVPCw8eW45BemtZcMoPXYMtb04S9o10b9ktHLVY4be39hsTSrKylzBQfgA8kK41GfM35VGaVlZMiNzrHM/s1600/o-AFRICAN-AMERICAN-WOMAN-STRESS-facebook.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixJ8LvM2117k0LdcEiE6Rqfg5vm1wa-Jojlq_pjJbVkm26arjqHwFVKvtQfjDVPCw8eW45BemtZcMoPXYMtb04S9o10b9ktHLVY4be39hsTSrKylzBQfgA8kK41GfM35VGaVlZMiNzrHM/s1600/o-AFRICAN-AMERICAN-WOMAN-STRESS-facebook.jpg" height="160" width="320" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">A dear friend of mine has been wanting to quit smoking for a long time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">My neighbour's daughter is in an abusive relationship and has been wanting to leave the relationship for some years.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">An acquaintance's relative is on drugs and has been wanting to seek help for a few years.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Another friend of mine is bored to death of her job and has been intending to explore other options.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I have had a few clients who break out in sweat every time they have to speak in public and they have spent years "intending" to improve their public speaking skills.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">I could go on, but I guess you got the gist already...</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">For most people, it is something they do, which they really want to stop doing. For others, it is something they don't do, which they want to start doing. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">But, isn't it true that a lot of people never really achieve this change?</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">They keep wanting to..., intending to..., or trying to...</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">New year resolutions mean absolutely nothing, if year after year, they remain on that piece of paper or just in your head.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">What is stopping you from making that change? </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">What is limiting you from walking out of that situation?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">What is holding you back from taking that step in the direction you want?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">It might not be easy, but nobody promised you anything was going to be easy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">It might require more than I know, but I do not know everything.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">One thing I do know though is that, it is not enough to want to do it, or to stop doing it, you have to actually do it or stop doing it. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">You have to move. Take it one step at a time, but for the love of all that is good, MOVE!</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Remember Nike? Just Do It!</span></div>
myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-78877209005088896382014-12-31T14:39:00.000+01:002014-12-31T14:39:11.001+01:00Keep these three things about: A Merry Heart. A Smile About. And A Twinkle In Your Eyes.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: large;">My childhood was a combination of many things. There were times of abundance, when we had too much of a lot of things, and then there were those times of scarcity, when it seems that everything was in shortage.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">We never really lacked the things that truly mattered, but certain commodities were in short supply.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">No matter what the situation was, I still can't remember ever seeing my Mum without a smile for a full day.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Now, as an adult, I know that she had it tough on a lot of days. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Her job as both a health worker and a family counsellor, attending to the sick and needy. Raising seven children together with an almost absent partner, (because of his business, Dad lived in another city and visited occasionally. Mum didn't want to give up her career). A demanding extended family, and the fact that she committed herself to sharing other people's burdens. All these surely would weigh anybody down, but not Mum. She stood firm, handled all resulting emotions and always found reasons to smile.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">I saw her angry, I saw her really upset about things. I saw her cry. I saw her sad. But, even when she had too much on her plate, she always managed to find a moment to smile. To tell a joke. And to laugh, not a small laugh, but a full belly and resounding laugh.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">My Mum's laugh reached far and infected many.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">She always found something to be merry about, and when she smiled or laughed, the world lightened up, there were really stars in her eyes and on our skies. She seemed to find such pleasures in little things and at unexpected moments.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And she would say, that no matter what anyone has to go through, there will always be things which will bring a smile to your face, only if you remember to see them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And she taught us: "A cheerful disposition makes a whole lot of things, a whole lot better. So, my dear, no matter what you have to face in life, always keep these three things about; a merry heart, a warm smile and a twinkle in your eyes".</span>myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-45050911758880677132014-12-30T23:46:00.004+01:002014-12-30T23:58:28.277+01:00Shut Up And Listen.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJ3hYs8Syg8vaTK5SddDsueeqwRcS6Cc0QICS13kQWYVSl8FF_ddYkmdaRSks4RrtoCaRIRMaUSMXf48mKtoFMyE9n7HCbTXj1coebSjWnAVvhceYJj7HzkCvOmClaNQmhwebobDpRNgU/s1600/logo-shh1.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="165" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJ3hYs8Syg8vaTK5SddDsueeqwRcS6Cc0QICS13kQWYVSl8FF_ddYkmdaRSks4RrtoCaRIRMaUSMXf48mKtoFMyE9n7HCbTXj1coebSjWnAVvhceYJj7HzkCvOmClaNQmhwebobDpRNgU/s1600/logo-shh1.jpg" width="200" /></a><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Mum always said, "My dear, you have two ears and one mouth, use them proportionately!"<br /><br />You know how sometimes, kids tend to make such efforts to explain things or talk their way out of some situation. Mum would listen to you, sometimes amused, and, sometimes clearly irritated. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">But, she always listened to us, focusing intently, hardly ever taking her eyes off you (and Mum had real big eyes), then she would say, ever so gently but firmly, "Now, shut up and listen."</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Not angry. Not uncomfortable.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Not scolding. Not reprimanding. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Not judging. Not criticising. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Just gently pointing out one of life's greatest lessons and one of the best gift you can give to anyone; your ears and your undivided attention.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br />I am learning to do the same. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">To give people more of my ears and less of my mouth. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">I'm learning to just shut up, focus on the person in front of me and just listen to them. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">I'm still learning to give people the gift of a listening ear. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">You will agree with me that there are times when this is extremely tasking. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And then, there are times when I feel like saying to the other party after listening, "Now, you shut up and listen".</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">But, then I can, because, I still use my mouth from time to time... You know, finding the balance.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Oh, and don't worry, when I ask someone to, "Shut up". I do it in a really nice way, not as nice or as gentle as my Mum, but nice still...</span>
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<span style="font-size: large;">There will be the ones who will bless. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Who will teach and build.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Who will give. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Who will add value. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Who will inspire you to greater heights.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">There will be the ones who will hurt. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Who will betray. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Who will judge and criticise. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Who will try to bring you down, intentionally or unintentionally.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Then, there will be the ones who will do nothing. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Not giving anything. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Not contributing anything.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Just there, idle.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Just occupying space, taking from you and draining you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Then, there will be the ones who will do all three. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">They will make you laugh, but they could also make you cry. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">They will give you, but they will also take from you. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And, sometimes, they will do nothing, they will just be there.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">This is a fact of life that you can only accept, for no matter how much you question or resist this, these are the four kinds of people you will meet in your life. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And until you have met them all, you cannot say that you have truly lived.</span><br />
<br />myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-81774278541369980592014-12-29T13:18:00.000+01:002014-12-29T13:18:23.616+01:00You are enough!<span style="font-size: large;">The need to conform your perception of yourself to what others may or may not think is one sure way to self destruction.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">The desire to fit into a tag as described by other people will only </span><span style="font-size: large;">guarantee heart break.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">The attempt to follow conventions and their definition of what you should be or do to be accepted will only lead you to frustration and despondency.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Contending to satisfy everyone's demand on your person and response will only usher in disgruntlement and circumvention. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">So, today and every day for the rest of your life, accept and remember this truth: </span><i style="font-size: x-large;">"No matter who you are, what you look like, or what you share with the world, there will always be someone who doesn’t approve of you. </i><br />
<i style="font-size: x-large;">You are who you are, and you’re enough. </i><br />
<i style="font-size: x-large;">I</i><i style="font-size: x-large;">t isn’t your job to conform to their idea of what constitutes a “worthwhile” human being. </i><br />
<i style="font-size: x-large;">Instead of focusing on all of the people who don’t approve of you, try to take some time today to remind yourself of all the people who do appreciate and accept you. </i><br />
<i style="font-size: x-large;">They’re the people who matter. To them, you matter. </i><br />
<i style="font-size: x-large;">Let go of the rest."</i><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i>~Daniell Koepke</i></span>myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-47990910214198521632014-12-28T23:49:00.001+01:002014-12-29T18:03:12.695+01:00The Mirrored Image.<span style="font-size: large;">In front of the mirror,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Looking at the woman she has become.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">She forgot to count the years</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">She was instead transfixed by the reflection looking back at her.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">The lines caught her eyes,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">but they are laugh lines.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">the wrinkles creased,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">but they are the lives she has lived.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Her eyes glowed,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">With the promise of fulfilment.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">There is peace within,</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">for the assurance that she has weathered most storms.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">There is no sadness in her eyes.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">She is rather expectant.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And ready to live, to give and to love.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Doubt momentarily flickered.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Fear threatened.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">But then, she remembered that the tears always dries up.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And, she remembered that she always found reasons to smile.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And then, her smile deepened and brightened her horizon.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The mirrored image is the woman she has become.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Full of life and vigour.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Endowed with graceful gait.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Emboldened by faith.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And assured of a golden sunset when it is evening.</span>myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-48187485629343810952014-12-27T11:18:00.002+01:002014-12-27T20:51:10.151+01:00The Thanksgiving Speech.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjb4zwKZifDEl1ief-__DMVnK6HdNl6SxsXyeVUvn2G5tIqeQ7qkMjXlj23OrVehbiYbuGlFHlA8oY85RGvXzHmir_kWXG34qM1_XndUusb9mVe_VXamCTX-mPqmwAFm1NBULPVUkvFg7g/s1600/Spring-Is-Here.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjb4zwKZifDEl1ief-__DMVnK6HdNl6SxsXyeVUvn2G5tIqeQ7qkMjXlj23OrVehbiYbuGlFHlA8oY85RGvXzHmir_kWXG34qM1_XndUusb9mVe_VXamCTX-mPqmwAFm1NBULPVUkvFg7g/s1600/Spring-Is-Here.jpg" height="212" width="320" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">The other day, I listened to someone make a thanksgiving speech. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">She thanked God for her life, her family, her children, her business. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">She thanked God for how He protected her and her family..., for how He provided for her and her family, </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">for how He did not allow her enemies triumph over her and her family... </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I could go on, but I'll spare you the rest of the details.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">All good and well, and I was genuinely happy for her and thankful to God for keeping her and her own, but in retrospect, I realised that it was all about her, her speech was filled with, "I/My/me". </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Not once did she mention anyone outside her family, not once did she express thanks for what God might have done for others or used others to do for her. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">She simply did not acknowledge anyone else in her speech.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And, I realised that most times, most of us tend to focus so much on ourselves that we forget that our testimonies, our successes, our achievements, our accomplishments and our attainments always come about because of someone else, whether directly or indirectly. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">There will always be someone who contributes to your testimony. That person may or may not realise it, but without him or her, your story would not be complete. Their contributions might sometimes even be negative, but without them, you would not have been spurred on to greater heights.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And, as the year rolls to an end, we should all remember that even though your destiny and your success is in no one's hands, we do need each other to achieve and to attain. We need each other and we should be thankful for each other. Is there not a saying about no one being an island? And, truer words has not been said. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">No one is an island, so, when you thank God for the wonderful year you've had, remember to thank Him for all the wonderful people He strategically placed on your paths to make things happen. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Remember to thank everyone who readily allowed himself to be a vessel in God's hands to make your story what it is today. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Remember to be thankful for everyone who lent a helping hand. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And, remember to say a word of thanks to everyone who offered a word of prayer, shared a word of encouragement, or whispered a word of hope, whether you know them or you don't.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Say thanks to everyone who was there when you needed to talk. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">To the people in your life who suffered when they saw you suffer, to the ones who rejoiced when they saw you rejoice. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">To the ones who put up with you when you were being a real pain in the rear.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">To the ones whose testimonies and success inspired you.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Acknowledge people for simply being in your life.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Let your thanksgiving speech truly gives thanks for the right people and for all the right reasons.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And, I want to specially thank "you" for being a very essential and integral part of my life and my testimony. Without "you", there will be no me.</span>myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-77449734059384636622014-12-13T20:26:00.003+01:002014-12-17T19:52:13.213+01:00Some Of Those Quotes That...<div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Mere quotes will certainly not change your life, but they can broaden and change your perspective. They can act as a gentle reminder of some things you might be taking for granted or have forgotten. They can change your outlook in life and they can certainly change your day. And, sometimes, they'll just bring a smile to your face or trigger one good belly laugh.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">In life, it is easy to get caught up in challenging situations and forget who we are, what we are, and how far we can go. </span><span style="font-size: large;">So, today and over the next few posts, I will be sharing some remarkable words by both men and women and use their words to create a reminder for myself and for women in general, but also for the menfolks. Compiling and bringing together quotes that inspire, empower, motivate and gently or abruptly remind us of the magnitude of the gifts that we have, and of how potentially powerful we really are.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Hope you enjoy reading them as much as I have enjoyed putting them together, and of course, you can tell us the quotes which most got to you and as well share any of your favourite quotes with us:</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br />
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” - Maya Angelou.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.” -</span><span style="font-size: large;"> Coco Chanel</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“A woman is like a tea bag – you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.” - Eleanor Roosevelt.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea.” -</span><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><span style="font-size: large;">Robert A. Heinlein</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“Being a woman is a terribly difficult task, since it consists principally in dealing with men.” -</span><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><span style="font-size: large;">Joseph Conrad</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” -</span><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><span style="font-size: large;">Anaïs Nin</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.” -</span><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><span style="font-size: large;">George Carlin, <i>When Will Jesus Bring The Pork Chops?</i></span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“What would men be without women? Scarce, sir...mighty scarce.” </span><span style="font-size: large;">- Mark Twain</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” </span><span style="font-size: large;">- Oprah Winfrey</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“How wrong is it for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself?”</span><span style="font-size: large;"> - Anaïs Nin</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“Women only nag when they feel unappreciated.” </span><span style="font-size: large;">- Louis de Bernières, <i>Captain Corelli's Mandolin</i></span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“</span><span style="font-size: large;">The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” - Anna Quindlen.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.</span><span style="font-size: large;">”</span><span style="font-size: large;"> - Katharine Hepburn.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.” </span><span style="font-size: large;">- </span><span style="font-size: large;">Steve Maraboli</span><span style="font-size: large;">, </span><span style="font-size: large;"><i>Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience</i></span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“</span><span style="font-size: large;">Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people. - Eleanor Roosevelt.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. </span><span style="font-size: large;">- Madeleine Albright </span><span style="font-size: large;"><i>(Keynote speech at Celebrating Inspiration luncheon with the WNBA's All-Decade Team, 2006)” </i></span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">“</span><span style="font-size: large;">When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another. – Helen Keller.</span></li>
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myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-26720996248435550182014-12-10T12:41:00.000+01:002014-12-10T12:41:42.185+01:00Yes, Dream! And Dream Big!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSe1FqZARZfozYpZt7ASVcDZddKbusyMxoKY-LvxD982ANnoF48X4XocKaBwSIP97w6EceniCC-m1dHZ_a98kyvtgRfcj7O22PiKyEQpAfz1ZAxpu9nDjVe8sBV-LkRU2PTzoURk_kJgg/s1600/DSCF0307.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSe1FqZARZfozYpZt7ASVcDZddKbusyMxoKY-LvxD982ANnoF48X4XocKaBwSIP97w6EceniCC-m1dHZ_a98kyvtgRfcj7O22PiKyEQpAfz1ZAxpu9nDjVe8sBV-LkRU2PTzoURk_kJgg/s1600/DSCF0307.jpg" height="200" width="200" /></a><span style="font-size: large;"><i>"Dream! </i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i>Yes, dream! </i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i>And, while you're at it, dream big!</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i>By all means, build castles in the air!</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i>Let your eyes wander and be wistful.</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><i>Aspire to the heights.</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i>Dare to spread your wings.</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i>And, when you have, fly!</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><i>However, my dear, </i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i>always keep your expectations real,</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i>gird yourself with the right armour</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i>and make sure your feet are firmly on the ground".</i></span>myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-32098806087205298312014-12-09T09:27:00.000+01:002014-12-09T09:27:45.211+01:00This Explains my Crush on Denzel Washington.Most people who know me will tell you about my lifelong crush Denzel Washington. Apart from the fact that the dude is one fine looking brother and an exceptional actor, I have always felt that there was something more...<br />
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A man that reasons and speaks like this is a man assured of grace and the success that grace brings.<br />
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I am grateful for Denzel, and I am grateful that he can share these things with the world.<br />
Oh, and I still have a crush on him! And, now with more justification, not that I needed it.myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-58037698840592714102014-12-04T12:41:00.002+01:002014-12-13T20:58:08.658+01:00What Is Your Deepest Fear?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: large;">Today, this note spoke to me in a very profound way. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">I hope it will speak to you too.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Actually, who are you not to be?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">You are a child of God.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Your playing small does not serve the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">There is nothing enlightened about shrinking</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">We are all meant to shine, as children do.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">It’s not just in some of us, it is in everyone.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">And as we let our own light shine,</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">As we are liberated from our own fear, </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">- Marianne Williamson.</span></div>
myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-53164768326528243402014-12-03T10:56:00.001+01:002014-12-13T20:57:09.031+01:00Misguided.<span style="font-size: large;">We have all been at one time or another been influenced by things. Sentiments. People. Emotions.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">We have received inspiration and motivation from people. From something they said or wrote. By something they did or didn't do.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And, indeed it is commendable that we allow ourselves to be inspired and motivated.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But, sometimes, we find ourselves on the opposite side of the coin and we allow ourselves to be misguided. To be negatively influenced.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">We know we shouldn't, but we do it anyways.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">We acquiesce to external or internal influences that propel us to self doubt. And, sometimes, we do not realise it until it's too late.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Today, I encourage you to look out for those things, those emotions, those people, those situations that tend to push you towards the directions we shouldn't be heading to.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">You should identify them and once you do, you should run for dear life.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Refuse to be misguided by your fears.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Refuse to be misguided by your past.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Refuse to be misguided by conventions.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Refuse to be misguided by societal norms.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Refuse to be misguided by what people say or do.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Refuse to be misguided by what you have or don't have.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Refuse to be misguided by misgivings, be they yours or other people's.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Refuse to succumb to anything that does not build you up.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Don't concur with any word or thought process that does not elevate.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And, don't be misguided.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Stay focused and as my Mum would say, "Surround yourself always with people who will motivate and inspire you to be the best that you can possibly be".</span><br />
<br />myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-21145963786168443682014-12-01T12:58:00.002+01:002014-12-01T21:24:30.277+01:00The Very Necessary And Fine Art Of Saying "No".<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtnUGxbN28AnBXuWrqdkIMukvs9rjYS8ZsPhy3jEzv6bN4FKLKZu5soPA6gI4x25wKXzJBzPfiBsoriUea-QgHcq-7Mx-t6Wq_bw-n9lAQ9Rtyxa-bhNWNRAAK7AHs1JCgvJbVdUK9aME/s1600/Screen-Shot-2014-06-16-at-6.11.43-PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; font-size: x-large; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgtnUGxbN28AnBXuWrqdkIMukvs9rjYS8ZsPhy3jEzv6bN4FKLKZu5soPA6gI4x25wKXzJBzPfiBsoriUea-QgHcq-7Mx-t6Wq_bw-n9lAQ9Rtyxa-bhNWNRAAK7AHs1JCgvJbVdUK9aME/s1600/Screen-Shot-2014-06-16-at-6.11.43-PM.png" height="320" width="315" /></a><span style="font-size: large;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">In life, work, business and relationships, we will be confronted with very diverse opportunities, choices and decisions. There will be many juicy and mouth watering offers, and we will be tempted to grab them all. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">People will ask favours and make demands.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">We will want to explore and we will sometimes be plagued by the terrible malady known as FOMO (fear of missing out). </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Maybe, we are afraid of missing an opportunity. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">We might sometimes just want to be the nice guy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But, whatever the reasons are, we need to understand that opportunities are not mandates. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">We can not lay claim to all of them. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">To maintain our sanity and keep your mental, physical and emotional health, we need to learn and master the very necessary art of saying no. You will find that saying this little two-letter word can actually be wildly liberating. It creates space for the right opportunities to appear and when they do, it sets you free to accept them. Saying "no" gives you both the energy and peace you requires to make the most of the opportunity you commit to.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Elizabeth Gilbert, author of the best-selling book Eat, Pray, Love, in an interview on The Oprah Winfrey Show shared one of her strategies for maintaing focus in her life. She said that surrounding herself with what she called a “wall of no’s” is what helps her to ensure that she could deliver on whatever she decides to say yes to.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">You must have seen people who often say, “Yes” when in fact, they should say, “No” solely for the fear of disappointing others. But then, when you say yes to something just because you want to please someone else, you are betraying yourself, and you will lose a small part of you. </span><span style="font-size: large;">And if you keep doing this, you will get to the point where there's very little or nothing left of you when what you really need to say "yes" to appears on the horizon.</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">The Decision:</span></b><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">When you’re faced with a decision, before you say, "yes" or "No", ask yourself and answer these questions.</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">Can I do this? Check yourself. Time. Ability. Availability. Result. And, maybe, I can, but, will you? Remember there is a difference between "Can't" and "Won't". And, you are entitled to both. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Do I really want to do this? Think it through. Listen to your inner voice if you can trust it. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Does this align with my values and goals? </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Do I have the time for this? Time is what everyone has in equal proportion. Make sure you're using yours judiciously.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Will it be of benefit to me? Yes, sometimes, you should think about yourself too. You don't want to waste your time in something that will not serve any purpose</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Will I do a good job of this if I take it on? A job well done will bring you more opportunities, and one that's done in a mediocre way will not only tarnish your professional image, it will also leave you second guessing yourself.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">What do I hope to achieve by doing this?</span></li>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">The Answer:</span></b><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">As you answer these questions with an authentic and honest "yes" or " no", you will be better positioned to give a response that will work both for you and the other party and at the same guarantee you aren't pitching yourself up for failure and physical, psychological and emotional burnout.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And, when you decide to say "No", be sensitive, be firm, and be polite. Be aware that your tone of voice and underlying intent should be congruent with your words to ensure the impact you want.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">There are diverse ways you can let someone off gently, without ruffling feathers (at least, not too much), and these keywords and short phrases can help you articulate your "no" in a way that is authentic.</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">No, thank you.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">No, thanks, but No.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Thank you for the gracious invitation. I regret that I must decline.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I am flattered, but I'll have to say, no.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">That sounds like a lot of fun, which makes it even harder for me to decline.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">It sounds like a great idea, but I'm afraid, I have to say no.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I'm not able to do that right now.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Let me think about it and get back to you.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I can't commit to this right now, but let me help you find someone who can.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I can't right now, but I can do it [insert a specific time here].</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Unfortunately, I have other commitments right now. If you'd like, I can get back with you at [insert a specific time here].</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I have another commitment at that time.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I'm sorry, I already have plans. Thank you.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I'm afraid this is not something I want to do right now. Maybe in the future.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I have an important family/personal commitment.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I'd love to help, but I'm on a strict deadline for the next few days. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I'd rather decline than do a mediocre job.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I'd like to help out; but I have other projects I am committed to finishing before I take on anything else.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I'm sorry; I really can't give that project the attention it deserves.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Thank you. This really isn't my strong suit. Let me connect you with someone who can do it.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Some things have come up that need my attention.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">No, I won't be able to make it, but please let me know how it goes.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I'm sorry, as a general rule I don't participate in [insert activity here]. If there's another way I can help, let me know.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">I can't right now, but I know you will do a wonderful job yourself.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">No, I can't because... Let me know if there's any way I can help another time.</span></li>
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<span style="font-size: large;">In as much as you want to be polite and sometimes proffer reasons and justifications for turning down an offer, a request or an opportunity, you should remember that the honest answer is YES or NO, all the rest can be useful or useless embellishments as to describe the motives behind the answer if there are any. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Sometimes you don't need so much syrup or fog around your answer, you should just serve it straight, without any side dishes, be it a "yes" or a "no".</span><br />
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myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-64600348611183375322014-11-27T23:51:00.002+01:002014-11-28T00:01:24.613+01:00A Very Happy Thanksgiving. Today, I'm Taking Stock.<span style="font-size: large;">Today, I'm taking stock! </span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">I'm counting my blessings and once again, I'm awed and overwhelmed by how much I've been given. </span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">I'm humbled by how much my sphere of contact had widened. </span><div>
<span style="font-size: large;">I'm elated at the thought of the love, peace and grace surrounding me<br />I'm thankful for my roots. Thankful for a solid foundation.<br /> I'm thankful for my family. The seven champions raised by a giant. I'm thankful for God's special interest in our case. I'm thankful for the men and women we are becoming. </span><span style="font-size: large;">I'm thankful for the peace and unity that abounds.</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br />I'm thankful for my home. For in spite of all the odds, it is still standing.<br />I'm thankful for the man in my life, the one whose ring I'm wearing, for love and grace.<br />I'm thankful for the rest of my family. Both far and near.<br /><br />I'm thankful for healing and divine health, thankful that His word and my faith has defied all the attempts that the devil has made to counter my testimonies...<br />I'm thankful for my job, for the tremendous responsibilities of being an agent of change, knowledge and improvement. To be so privileged as to be positioned to help, build up, empower, impact, bless and inspire.<br /><br />I'm thankful for the country where I live, for better things I see!<br />I'm thankful for country where I was born, for beautiful and glorious things are coming out of her! Riches and abundance continue to abound and circulate properly!<br /><br />I'm thankful for life and for living. Thankful for all the lessons learnt! For the joys, the laughs, the tears! Thankful for my testimonies and for the challenges! Thankful for the grace to share and to to give.<br /><br />I'm thankful for a bright future, full of promise and joy and laughter and peace.<br />I'm thankful for friends! The ones who have gone! The ones who are still here! The ones who have known to love me unconditionally and have chosen to see only the good in me! The ones who have prayed for me and with me, the ones who haven't! The ones who haven chosen to judge me without all the facts! The ones who celebrate me, and the ones who don't!<br />I'm thankful for the friends both old and new, for the ones who are near, and the ones who are far!<br />I'm thankful for you who's reading this, for the many little ways you've been a part of my life! For that tiny smile (or look of annoyance) on your face as you continue reading! I'm thankful that you're in my life! I'm thankful for all the blessings that you have received! And I rejoice with you, for you see..., today, I'm counting my blessings and you are one of them!!!<br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/thankfulness">#th</a>anksgiving</span></div>
myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-68943301314572131772014-11-27T15:54:00.002+01:002014-11-27T15:55:51.509+01:00Your Character And Your Reputation.<span style="font-size: large;">Your character defines who you are. Build it.<br />Your reputation defines what others think you are. Protect it.</span><span style="font-size: large;">Your character speaks the words upon which your reputation is built.</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Both are important. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">For if your character speaks well, your reputation will reflect it. </span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Also, hasn't it been said that "a good name is better than riches".</span><span style="font-size: large;">And, I'll leave you with these words: </span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /><br /> "Character is the one thing we make in this world </span><span style="font-size: large;">and take with us into the next.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The circumstances amid which you live determine your reputation;</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">the truth you believe determines your character.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Reputation is what you are supposed to be;</span><span style="font-size: large;">Character is what you are.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Reputation is the photograph;</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Character is the face.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Reputation comes over one from without;</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Character grows up from within.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Reputation is what you have when you come to a new community;</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Character is what you have when you go away.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Reputation is made in a moment;</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Character is built in a lifetime.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Your reputation is learned in an hour;</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Your character doesn't come to light for a year.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Reputation grows like a mushroom;</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Character grows like the oak.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">A single newspaper report gives you your reputation;</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">A life of toil gives you your character.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Reputation makes you rich or makes you poor;</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Character makes you happy or makes you miserable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Reputation is what men say about you on your tombstone;</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Character is what angels say about you before the throne of God."</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">~ William Hersey Davis<br /></span>
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myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-11335588098941106522014-11-25T21:15:00.000+01:002014-11-25T21:15:21.032+01:00Stay True To Your Faith And Your Beliefs.<div>
<span style="font-size: large;">My Mum has always been someone who knew her own mind. At a very young age, she took what appeared then to be a very unpopular decision regarding her faith. This decision somehow annihilated her from certain friends and family, but even despite all the lows she suffered as a result, she held on and very tenaciously so. </span></div>
<span style="font-size: large;">She knew what she believed in and all through her lifetime she stayed true to those beliefs. <br />These days, when I see people , some of who had mocked her at the time, towing the same line she did many years ago, I can't help but marvel at her foresight and her tenacity of purpose.<br />She always said that it's paramount to recognize what's important in life and what matters most to you. She found what truly mattered and she held on. And she managed not only to do that, but also she taught us to do the same. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">"Your faith, your beliefs will carry you a long way. A time will come when these two might seem like all you got, but you'll find that they'll be enough", she would say. "And when all seems lost my dear, stay loyal to those things that matter most". </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">A trail blazer she was. And, she was not afraid to show it. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And, I learnt from the very best. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">To stay true to my faith. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">To stand up for what I believe in. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">I learnt to focus on that which truly matters. </span>myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-86046741223604571642014-11-24T22:28:00.000+01:002014-11-24T22:28:38.546+01:00A generous hand and a grateful heart!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNDMP4Hy5Kx822ZMokjbM2JB7Ykh94v1P55lqyQbzXG-oFx_kjugoMOZzISzwXbn0qt2TihUHOdGBTSXYtis0GUZsJGDkgf5cFWfMj0rnbNqlyk2P467W07ZHqxsYrVIJ7D3SJjUxrNzw/s1600/images.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNDMP4Hy5Kx822ZMokjbM2JB7Ykh94v1P55lqyQbzXG-oFx_kjugoMOZzISzwXbn0qt2TihUHOdGBTSXYtis0GUZsJGDkgf5cFWfMj0rnbNqlyk2P467W07ZHqxsYrVIJ7D3SJjUxrNzw/s1600/images.jpeg" height="200" width="200" /></a><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">Learning to be both generous and thankful will prove to be indeed a direct link to miracles, even if </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">you don't believe in miracles.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">When you learn to be grateful for what you've been given, you'll be given more. When you give of what you have, you will receive more.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">Something as simple as sharing toys, sharing clothing, books, even candies and treats was a vital part of growing up. Sometimes, we didn't like it, but we did it anyways. And then we became used to it and now it is a way of life. And we are reaping of the joys and the immense harvest that comes as a result.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">We had to say "thank you" after a meal, when you receive your school supplies or you get that chocolate or ice-cream, when you are taken to the zoo, when you get that crayon, that book or that treat you've waited ages for, when you get your hair done, or someone helps get your nails cut or helps you zip your dress. It doesn't matter what, how big or small the gift or act is, you absolutely had to say "thank you".</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">You might think that that's only to be expected, but then this is something which a lot of people are taking for granted these days.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">This was a rule from which Mum was not exempted. She said "thank you" to us, when we finished our food, when we showered ourselves or a younger sibling. She said "thank you" when you get your chores done, do your homework or when you bring home good results from school. It didn't matter what it was, how big or small, Mum said "thank you".</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">I remember that a few months after I got married, one of my first complaints was that I didn't feel appreciated by my husband. The darling man had to gently remind me that he was not my Mum, who said "thank you" for everything. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">There will be time when you will not like to do these things. Sometimes, you might not feel like it. Sometimes, the recipient might not be totally deserving of it. But we should do it anyway. Sometimes, the results are not always as expected, but we shouldn't stop doing it.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">The rewards comes in many different shapes, sizes and colours. You might know it or you might not know it, but, they will indeed come.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">I can't claim to have everything I want, but I do have everything that truly matters here and now. I am thankful for that which I have been given, I willingly share of them and I have no doubt in my mind that every other thing is coming and in abundance in the fullness of time.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">Your generous hand and your thankful heart will not only always bring you many blessings, and open countless doors for you, it will also bless the lives of others and bring them joy.</span><br />
<br />myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-26937896813774515492014-11-19T00:36:00.004+01:002014-11-19T00:36:51.853+01:00Words To Live By. 5<ol>
<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">Hold your heroes and role-models to a high standard. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">Expect the seat in front of you to recline. Prepare accordingly. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">Don’t linger in the doorway. In or out. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">Look people in the eye when you thank them. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">It’s never too late for an apology. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">Be patient with airport security. They are just doing their job. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">Know when to ignore the camera or the mirror. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">When entrusted with a secret, keep it.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: large;">Your dance moves might not be the best, but I promise making a fool of yourself is more fun than sitting on the bench alone.</span></li>
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myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-32454910373725065062014-11-18T00:10:00.003+01:002014-11-18T00:16:19.195+01:00How To Build Your Self Confidence And Keep It. <div>
<span style="font-size: large;">Continuing our conversation on increasing your self confidence, we will look at 3 more guaranteed actions that will boost your confidence in yourself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">If you missed the others, you can read them <a href="http://jane-myrubyheels.blogspot.com.es/2014/11/how-to-build-your-self-confidence-and.html">here</a> and <a href="http://jane-myrubyheels.blogspot.com.es/2014/11/how-to-build-your-self-confidence-and_12.html">here</a>.</span></div>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">Be kind and generous. Being kind to others, giving of yourself and giving a helping hand to the person who needs it has a magical effect on us. It provides you with an opportunity to bless the life of another and gives you a feel-good-about-yourself feeling that can not be easily taken from you. </span><span style="font-size: large;">Giving and contributing to the success of others will not only help you feel better about yourself, but karma will reward you in the end. After all, it is said that we do reap what we sow. Kindness and generous acts will always find their way back to you. </span></li>
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<li>Be both grateful and thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, opportunities or material things. But, it is irrefutable that just the mere act of acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, can help you keep the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied at bay. And, subsequently, this will bring with it an inner peace that will do wonders for your confidence. Gratitude and thankfulness will keep you both humble and elated. So, as you continue on your walk take some time to sit and think about all of the things you have going for you, no matter how mundane you think those might be.</li>
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<li>Surround yourself with positive relationships. My Mum always used the popular saying, "Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are". Cliché, you might say, but it is true that being around people who support, compliment, encourage, and generally validate you will open your eyes to the good in you. It will boost you and help you solidify a sense of self-affirmation in you and this will directly increase your self-confidence. Identify people with positive, uplifting outlook and attitude towards life and whose standards are kinder and more realistic, and when you do, spend time with them.Identify those people that exhibit the confidence and qualities that you desire to possess. Become friends with those people who are positive, empowering, and want to see you succeed. </li>
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<li>On the flip side of this one, stay away from negative people. Get rid of as many sources of negativity as you can. You might argue that we can't get rid of every possible source of negativity in our lives, but, we can certainly make an effort to cut down on exposure to that negativity. So, do yourself a favour, keep far from you everything that might bring you down. Disengage yourself from mean and toxic friends. Choose to spend less time with people who are nervous perfectionists, unkind or unsupportive of your dreams or goals. Cut them loose. Stop reading or watching anything that even remotely makes you second guess your self-worth. </li>
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</span><span style="font-size: large;">And, if there is any part of your life or situation that you can't change immediately, then change the way you handle it.<br />I will end this post with a word from Mark Twain. "Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. (Or you, your achievements and your dreams.) Small people do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great", he said. Words in bracket are mine. </span>myrubyheelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14963597670656545529noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-311934365551282345.post-1634281884465031582014-11-14T18:38:00.001+01:002014-11-17T16:37:49.307+01:00Think Highly Of Yourself.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGMvYv6OuK40DS3NfEAG3RGpIaQiz2gXzA-ufpch6bXei98vDqlP0ejEziWCebOcxrhx-RXwgfk_kL4tvL4m5vZo6lEkQ7tdtfsxgLsbYdg91xhfRnkVwBkc9oP_qA3ZDKK41pXCi01pE/s1600/IMG_1122.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGMvYv6OuK40DS3NfEAG3RGpIaQiz2gXzA-ufpch6bXei98vDqlP0ejEziWCebOcxrhx-RXwgfk_kL4tvL4m5vZo6lEkQ7tdtfsxgLsbYdg91xhfRnkVwBkc9oP_qA3ZDKK41pXCi01pE/s1600/IMG_1122.jpg" height="200" width="150" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">In many cultures, we are taught to be modest and even sometimes, self-deprecating. We are made to believe that putting ourselves down or underplaying our achievements is upheld as a virtue. It is common for even successful people to downplay their success so as to be regarded as humble and to earn the respect and approval of others. </span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /><br />You will be told that one can not blow one's own trumpet. But, the truth is that sometimes, you will need to take the first step to help people know your worth. The world will see you, but first, they might need to hear you. And for that to happen, you need to sing. So, sing. Sing your praise. Blow that trumpet. Blow it hard and well. People will always listen to what you have to say about yourself. Otherwise, why is the advertisement industry doing as well as it is doing today.<br />If you think of yourself and consequently present yourself as too old, too inexperienced, uninformed, dull or ordinary, those negative expectations influence the way you live.<br /><br />Psychologists and life's experiences have pointed out that low self-esteem, as well as self-deprecating thoughts have endless negative consequences both for those who have it, and for those with whom they relate. <br /><br />It is indeed true that, very often, our biggest limitations are the ones we put on ourselves, be that by our actions, our words or our thoughts.</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And, over the years, I've learned that it's okay for you to think you're pretty great. </span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;">Thinking highly of yourself doesn’t mean you have to be cocky, arrogant or elitist. It doesn't mean imposing yourself on others or putting others down. </span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Thinking highly of yourself rather implies that you are acknowledging the gifts that you have been blessed and empowered with. It means that you are celebrating the journey which has brought you to the place of attainment. It entails sharing the lessons learnt and it denotes encouragement to the ones who are aspiring to triumph. <br /><br />You will find that when you think of yourself as creative, passionate, interesting, valuable, unique and genuine, those positive expectations will be expressed in your life.<br />You should acknowledge yourself as fulfilling your purpose and performing an indispensable role in this life. And, whatever that role may be, it should be a source of joy and pride.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">And when you do this, you will find that it becomes easier to inspire and empower others to the same or a higher level of greatness.</span><span style="font-size: large;"><br /><br /> When you truly think highly of yourself, you’ll end up living your life so as to genuinely prove those thoughts accurate.It is the quality of our thoughts that determine the quality of our experience in life. Right thinking or positive thoughts today shape our future life.<br /><br />The beliefs and expectations you hold about yourself can hold you back, but they can also encourage you forward. So, as you go about your day, make the choice to be encouraged, inspired, motivated and compelled by the positive things you believe and expect of yourself.<br /><br />An honest pride in one's work always speaks volume and is also with with the promise that others can trust you. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">My Mum would say to us, over and over again, "whatever your hand finds to do, do it well and take pride in it"<br />And it was Norman Vincent Peale who said, "Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy".</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">So, go right ahead! Think highly of yourself! Blow your own trumpet. Keep it honest and then continue to make sure that the world won't be mistaken when they agree with you. </span></div>
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