Choose to be kind to yourself, both in words and deeds. You deserve it.
To be able to do this, first, rid yourself of any preconceived or judgmental notions about what self-kindness is or what it should look like.
You are in charge here. In charge of your life and in charge of your choices.
Most times, society assumes that being kind to yourself is being selfish or self-indulgent. But, nothing can be farther from the truth, because self-kindness keeps us content and helps us give to others and be kinder to the people in our lives.
And, in the words of psychotherapist Claudia H. Christian, "self-kindness is applying a generous and warm heart toward yourself to create sympathy and understanding from yourself, for yourself."