Thursday, 27 November 2014

A Very Happy Thanksgiving. Today, I'm Taking Stock.

Today, I'm taking stock! 
I'm counting my blessings and once again, I'm awed and overwhelmed by how much I've been given. 
I'm humbled by how much my sphere of contact had widened. 
I'm elated at the thought of the love, peace and grace surrounding me
I'm thankful for my roots. Thankful for a solid foundation.
I'm thankful for my family. The seven champions raised by a giant. I'm thankful for God's special interest in our case. I'm thankful for the men and women we are becoming. 
I'm thankful for the peace and unity that abounds.
I'm thankful for my home. For in spite of all the odds, it is still standing.
I'm thankful for the man in my life, the one whose ring I'm wearing, for love and grace.
I'm thankful for the rest of my family. Both far and near.

I'm thankful for healing and divine health, thankful that His word and my faith has defied all the attempts that the devil has made to counter my testimonies...
I'm thankful for my job, for the tremendous responsibilities of being an agent of change, knowledge and improvement. To be so privileged as to be positioned to help, build up, empower, impact, bless and inspire.

I'm thankful for the country where I live, for better things I see!
I'm thankful for country where I was born, for beautiful and glorious things are coming out of her! Riches and abundance continue to abound and circulate properly!

I'm thankful for life and for living. Thankful for all the lessons learnt! For the joys, the laughs, the tears! Thankful for my testimonies and for the challenges! Thankful for the grace to share and to to give.

I'm thankful for a bright future, full of promise and joy and laughter and peace.
I'm thankful for friends! The ones who have gone! The ones who are still here! The ones who have known to love me unconditionally and have chosen to see only the good in me! The ones who have prayed for me and with me, the ones who haven't! The ones who haven chosen to judge me without all the facts! The ones who celebrate me, and the ones who don't!
I'm thankful for the friends both old and new, for the ones who are near, and the ones who are far!
I'm thankful for you who's reading this, for the many little ways you've been a part of my life! For that tiny smile (or look of annoyance) on your face as you continue reading! I'm thankful that you're in my life! I'm thankful for all the blessings that you have received! And I rejoice with you, for you see..., today, I'm counting my blessings and you are one of them!!!

Your Character And Your Reputation.

Your character defines who you are. Build it.
Your reputation defines what others think you are. Protect it.
Your character speaks the words upon which your reputation is built.
Both are important. 
For if your character speaks well, your reputation will reflect it. 

Also, hasn't it been said that "a good name is better than riches".And, I'll leave you with these words: 

"Character is the one thing we make in this world 
and take with us into the next.
The circumstances amid which you live determine your reputation;
the truth you believe determines your character.

Reputation is what you are supposed to be;Character is what you are.

Reputation is the photograph;
Character is the face.

Reputation comes over one from without;
Character grows up from within.

Reputation is what you have when you come to a new community;
Character is what you have when you go away.

Reputation is made in a moment;
Character is built in a lifetime.

Your reputation is learned in an hour;
Your character doesn't come to light for a year.

Reputation grows like a mushroom;
Character grows like the oak.

A single newspaper report gives you your reputation;
A life of toil gives you your character.

Reputation makes you rich or makes you poor;
Character makes you happy or makes you miserable.

Reputation is what men say about you on your tombstone;
Character is what angels say about you before the throne of God."
~ William Hersey Davis

Tuesday, 25 November 2014

Stay True To Your Faith And Your Beliefs.

My Mum has always been someone who knew her own mind. At a very young age, she took what appeared then to be a very unpopular decision regarding her faith. This decision somehow annihilated her from certain friends and family, but even despite all the lows she suffered as a result, she held on and very tenaciously so. 
She knew what she believed in and all through her lifetime she stayed true to those beliefs.
These days, when I see people , some of who had mocked her at the time, towing the same line she did many years ago, I can't help but marvel at her foresight and her tenacity of purpose.
She always said that it's paramount to recognize what's important in life and what matters most to you. She found what truly mattered and she held on. And she managed not only to do that, but also she taught us to do the same. 

"Your faith, your beliefs will carry you a long way. A time will come when these two might seem like all you got, but you'll find that they'll be enough", she would say. "And when all seems lost my dear, stay loyal to those things that matter most".

A trail blazer she was. And, she was not afraid to show it. 
And, I learnt from the very best. 
To stay true to my faith. 
To stand up for what I believe in. 
I learnt to focus on that which truly matters. 

Monday, 24 November 2014

A generous hand and a grateful heart!

Learning to be both generous and thankful will prove to be indeed a direct link to miracles, even if
you don't believe in miracles.

When you learn to be grateful for what you've been given, you'll be given more. When you give of what you have, you will receive more.
Something as simple as sharing toys, sharing clothing, books, even candies and treats was a vital part of growing up. Sometimes, we didn't like it, but we did it anyways. And then we became used to it and now it is a way of life. And we are reaping of the joys and the immense harvest that comes as a result.
We had to say "thank you" after a meal, when you receive your school supplies or you get that chocolate or ice-cream, when you are taken to the zoo, when you get that crayon, that book or that treat you've waited ages for, when you get your hair done, or someone helps get your nails cut or helps you zip your dress. It doesn't matter what,  how big or small the gift or act is, you absolutely had to say "thank you".
You might think that that's only to be expected, but then this is something which a lot of people are taking for granted these days.
This was a rule from which Mum was not exempted. She said "thank you" to us, when we finished our food, when we showered ourselves or a younger sibling. She said "thank you" when you get your chores done, do your homework or when you bring home good results from school. It didn't matter what it was, how big or small, Mum said "thank you".
I remember that a few months after I got married, one of my first complaints was that I didn't feel appreciated by my husband. The darling man had to gently remind me that he was not my Mum, who said "thank you" for everything. 

There will be time when you will not like to do these things. Sometimes, you might not feel like it. Sometimes, the recipient might not be totally deserving of it. But we should do it anyway. Sometimes, the results are not always as expected, but we shouldn't stop doing it.
The rewards comes in many different shapes, sizes and colours. You might know it or you might not know it, but, they will indeed come.

I can't claim to have everything I want, but I do have everything that truly matters here and now. I am thankful for that which I have been given, I willingly share of them and I have no doubt in my mind that every other thing is coming and in abundance in the fullness of time.

Your generous hand and your thankful heart will not only always bring you many blessings, and open countless doors for you, it will also bless the lives of others and bring them joy.

Wednesday, 19 November 2014

Words To Live By. 5

  1. Hold your heroes and role-models to a high standard. 
  2. Expect the seat in front of you to recline. Prepare accordingly. 
  3. Don’t linger in the doorway. In or out. 
  4. Look people in the eye when you thank them. 
  5. It’s never too late for an apology. 
  6. Be patient with airport security. They are just doing their job. 
  7. Know when to ignore the camera or the mirror. 
  8. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
  9. Smile at strangers.
  10. Your dance moves might not be the best, but I promise making a fool of yourself is more fun than sitting on the bench alone.

Tuesday, 18 November 2014

How To Build Your Self Confidence And Keep It.

Continuing our conversation on increasing your self confidence, we will look at 3 more guaranteed actions that will boost your confidence in yourself.
If you missed the others, you can read them here and here.
  • Be kind and generous. Being kind to others, giving of yourself and giving a helping hand to the person who needs it has a magical effect on us. It provides you with an opportunity to bless the life of another and gives you a feel-good-about-yourself feeling that can not be easily taken from you. Giving and contributing to the success of others will not only help you feel better about yourself, but karma will reward you in the end. After all, it is said that we do reap what we sow. Kindness and generous acts will always find their way back to you. 
  • Be both grateful and thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, opportunities or material things. But, it is irrefutable that just the mere act of acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, can help you keep the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied at bay. And, subsequently, this will bring with it an inner peace that will do wonders for your confidence. Gratitude and thankfulness will keep you both humble and elated. So, as you continue on your walk take some time to sit and think about all of the things you have going for you, no matter how mundane you think those might be.
  • Surround yourself with positive relationships. My Mum always used the popular saying, "Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are". Cliché, you might say, but it is true that being around people who support, compliment, encourage, and generally validate you will open your eyes to the good in you. It will boost you and help you solidify a sense of self-affirmation in you and this will directly increase your self-confidence. Identify people with positive, uplifting outlook and attitude towards life and whose standards are kinder and more realistic, and when you do, spend time with them.Identify those people that exhibit the confidence and qualities that you desire to possess. Become friends with those people who are positive, empowering, and want to see you succeed. 

  • On the flip side of this one, stay away from negative people. Get rid of as many sources of negativity as you can. You might argue that we can't get rid of every possible source of negativity in our lives, but, we can certainly make an effort to cut down on exposure to that negativity. So, do yourself a favour, keep far from you everything that might bring you down. Disengage yourself from mean and toxic friends. Choose to spend less time with people who are nervous perfectionists, unkind or unsupportive of your dreams or goals. Cut them loose. Stop reading or watching anything that even remotely makes you second guess your self-worth. 
And, if there is any part of your life or situation that you can't change immediately, then change the way you handle it.
I will end this post with a word from Mark Twain. "Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. (Or you, your achievements and your dreams.) Small people do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great", he said. Words in bracket are mine.

Friday, 14 November 2014

Think Highly Of Yourself.

In many cultures, we are taught to be modest and even sometimes, self-deprecating. We are made to believe that putting ourselves down or underplaying our achievements is upheld as a virtue. It is common for even successful people to downplay their success so as to be regarded as humble and to earn the respect and approval of others. 

You will be told that one can not blow one's own trumpet.  But, the truth is that sometimes, you will need to take the first step to help people know your worth.  The world will see you, but first, they might need to hear you. And for that to happen, you need to sing. So, sing. Sing your praise. Blow that trumpet. Blow it hard and well. People will always listen to what you have to say about yourself. Otherwise, why is the advertisement industry doing as well as it is doing today.
If you think of yourself and consequently present yourself as too old, too inexperienced, uninformed, dull or ordinary, those negative expectations influence the way you live.

Psychologists and life's experiences have pointed out that low self-esteem, as well as self-deprecating thoughts have endless negative consequences both for those who have it, and for those with whom they relate.

It is indeed true that, very often, our biggest limitations are the ones we put on ourselves, be that by our actions, our words or our thoughts.

And, over the years, I've learned that it's okay for you to think you're pretty great. 
Thinking highly of yourself doesn’t mean you have to be cocky, arrogant or elitist. It doesn't mean imposing yourself on others or putting others down. 

Thinking highly of yourself rather implies that you are acknowledging the gifts that you have been blessed and empowered with. It means that you are celebrating the journey which has brought you to the place of attainment. It entails sharing the lessons learnt and it denotes encouragement to the ones who are aspiring to triumph.

You will find that when you think of yourself as creative, passionate, interesting, valuable, unique and genuine, those positive expectations will be expressed in your life.
You should acknowledge yourself as fulfilling your purpose and performing an indispensable role in this life. And, whatever that role may be, it should be a source of joy and pride.

And when you do this, you will find that it becomes easier to inspire and empower others to the same or a higher level of greatness.

When you truly think highly of yourself, you’ll end up living your life so as to genuinely prove those thoughts accurate.It is the quality of our thoughts that determine the quality of our experience in life. Right thinking or positive thoughts today shape our future life.

The beliefs and expectations you hold about yourself can hold you back, but they can also encourage you forward. So, as you go about your day, make the choice to be encouraged, inspired, motivated and compelled by the positive things you believe and expect of yourself.

An honest pride in one's work always speaks volume and is also with with the promise that others can trust you. 
My Mum would say to us, over and over again, "whatever your hand finds to do, do it well and take pride in it"
And it was Norman Vincent Peale who said, "Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy".
So, go right ahead! Think highly of yourself! Blow your own trumpet. Keep it honest and then continue to make sure that the world won't be mistaken when they agree with you. 

Share your thoughts, please.

Wednesday, 12 November 2014

The Power Of A Mother's Words. The Power Of Your Words.

I am the second of seven children. 
The second daughter just before my parents' first son. 
Growing up, I felt equally well loved and appreciated, Mum was not one for favouritism. She spread love and cheer the way no one has equaled. She was also a strict disciplinarian , but love and tenderness were made manifest in everything she did. I had a happy childhood and I had and still have a great relationship with all my siblings. I love them to bits. I genuinely admire and respect the men and women they have become. 
However being the middle child has it's own peculiarities, and there were times when I felt ignored or not important. There were just feelings, baseless and untrue, but there were there.
They would spring up when I least expected them and at the age of 12, I left for boarding school. My years in boarding school in an all-girls school some hundreds of kilometres away from home didn't help, but that and the experiences as well as lessons learnt therein is a story for another day. 

My perception about myself changed in my last year in secondary school. I was 15. I was home on mid term break and one bright, moonlit evening, as we were out in the front yard of the hospital staff quarters where we were living at the time, enjoying a family evening with roasted corns and pear. My mum asked my sister and I to sing for every one, (a family tradition as we were in our church choir). After a number of songs, Mum suddenly went serious and said she had a word from the spirit of God for everyone, all seven of us, as well as two of my aunts and two domestic helps living with us at the time.
Mum was a woman given to prayers, it was commonplace to have her praying from midnight till the wee hours of the morning. It was also normal for her to name every member of the family as she prayed. She would go on and on, making declarations and petitions.  Little wonder she took so long to finish, we were seven children after all and then there were always people living with us at any given time, people who were always taken as members of the family.
And so, whenever Mum said she had a word from God, we all stopped and listened.
Today, I don't remember the words Mum gave my siblings, but I have never forgotten mine.
They are words etched on my heart and mind and engraved in every fibre of my being. Those words have guided me and strengthened me. They have provided succour when I have been faced with self doubt.
Her words or God's word to her for me that evening were simple but powerful. The words she released that evening were life. The words she told me were different from what she told my other siblings, they were personalised, they were authentic. I believed them. I still do.

She said that God said to tell me that I am "His very special princess".
She said that God said that no matter how I err or what I do, that I should always find my way home to Him, because He has a special interest in me. 
She said that God said that He will never allow me lose my way. She said that God knows that I have a very deep and genuine love for Him and that He loves me even more and that will never change. 
She then said that God said to tell me that He wants me for great things, but that I need to keep myself a vessel fit for His use.
These were the words my Mum told me. 

She said they were words God asked her to tell me. 

I have held on to these words and they are the foundation upon which my existence is built. I have never doubted them even when faced with the fiercest of storms. 
You may or may not believe in God, it doesn't matter.
But, you will agree with me that when a mother convinces her daughter of such affirming words, a champion is born. A princess, a woman of virtue, one who is not afraid to fail, one whose confidence cannot be shaken is born. 

That bright eyed girl is this day, the woman I have become. 

I live life knowing that I am God's very special princess. 
I live life as God's very special princess. 
I live life knowing that no matter how hard it gets, he's got my back and he won't allow me to get drowned. 
I live life knowing that I have a purpose. 
I love life fulfilling that purpose.

The words you speak to your children indeed do matter. And, even if you don't believe in God, the power of words is infinite. Whether they are God's Words or yours, words are as eternal as their powers are perpetual. 

It'll be great to read your thoughts and experiences.

How To build Your Self Confidence And Keep It.

We have been talking about self confidence, building or improving it, but most importantly, keeping it. If you missed the first part, read it here.
  1.  Change the way you see yourself. Our mental image of ourself could determine our level of self-confident. If you see yourself in a good way, chances are that the world around you will also you in the same way. We should realise that our self image is the first tag that we put on ourselves and people usually buy into it. This tag isn't fixed, it could be changed and improved, so if your level of self confident isn't where you want it, change it. Discover something good about yourself and celebrate it. Stop visualising all your shortcomings and begin magnifying your strengths. See yourself as valuable and your gait will change. 
  2. Groom yourself and clothe yourself nicely. You would think that this one should be obvious, but it’s amazing how difficult it is to pay attention to your physical appearance when your self confidence is low. Nevertheless, a good grooming can completely alter what the world sees when it looks at you. A popular saying tells us to dress the way we want to addressed. The effects of a good shower, a shave, clean clothes, well cut nails, and well fitted and nice clothes on your self confidence goes far beyond what some people think. If you're well spruced up and nicely dressed, you’ll feel good about yourself and, invariably you'll feel ready to tackle the world. Now, dressing nicely doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with the price tags on what you're wearing, it simply communicates to the people around you the value you place on yourself.
  3. Stand tall. Don't slouch. Don't droop. Remind yourself to stand tall and straight. Chin up. Square your shoulders. Imagine that a rope is pulling the top of your head toward the sky, and the rest of your body will straighten accordingly. In my Mum's book, people who stand tall and confident generally get people's attention. And, in my book, people who stand tall and confident hold the attention of the world around them...
  4. Smile. Another very obvious one. Cliché, you might say, but it works. It is proven. Everybody feels instantly better when approached with a smile, not to mention that when you smile you do really look better. So, come on, just smile. See...! Now, that you're smiling, don't you feel better already?

Monday, 10 November 2014

Life Is.

"Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it." ~ Mother Teresa

Sunday, 9 November 2014

Words To Live By. 4

  1. You must not win every argument. 
  2. Admit it when you’re wrong. 
  3. Nothing is the end of the world and most things are usually not as bad as they seem at first. 
  4. When in doubt, take a moment to clear your head and refocus. Then move, just take the next small step. Whatever you do, don't stop there. 
  5. If you don't ask, you don't get. 
  6. At first, almost everything is difficult before they are easy. Just keep at it. 
  7. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick or old. People will. Be nice to the people in your life and give them your time. 
  8. Make the little things count. 
  9. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
  10. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift. It won't be easy, but it'll be worth it.

    Friday, 7 November 2014

    How To Build Your Self Confidence And Keep It.

    Many people are oft held back from pursuing their dreams because of fear of failure as well as a lack of self-confidence needed to overcome that fear.
    Undoubtedly, overcoming a habit of fear and changing a lifetime spent wallowing in diffidence requires a battle. It is a battle you will need to fight over and over again, but once you know that you can beat them, that you can break through that wall of fear and come out on the other side, you will find yourself moving from success to further success.

    Whether you are struggling with building your self confidence or you want to keep improving yours, I invite you to join me over the next few days as we explore ways to improve our self confidence and consequently overcome all and every fear that might try to limit us from achieving our highest potentials:

    Today, we will be looking at 5 ways that could help you improve your self confidence.

    1. Believe that you can actually increase your self confidence. Lack of self confidence is not something genetic, and you do not have to be reliant on others to increase your self-confidence. Nobody was born with a low level of self confidence. By taking concrete actions you can improve your competence, your self-image, you can increase that self-confidence. But, first, believe it is in your hands to bring about the change you desire. And if you don't believe you can do better, you won't. It really is that simple. 
    2. Change your thoughts. Think positive. As a man thinks in his heart, so is he. You are what you think. Stop thoughts that are limiting and self-defeating. Cut your negative thoughts immediately and replace them with thoughts that are positive and confident. 
    3. Change your words. Talk positive. As Lisa M. Hayes said, “Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening.” Your words have tremendous power over you. You tend to believe words that both you and other people say about you. When you change what you say about yourself, it will be easier for other people will follow suit. The more you repeatedly send positive messages to yourself, the more confident you will become. 
    4. Change your actions. Act positive. If you can change what you do, then you have changed who you are. So, change your actions, one action at a time. Do things that will reinforce your strengths and improve your overall faith in your self. Things for yourself and for others. Channel energy into positive actions and you'll see how your self confidence begin to take an upward hike. 
    5. Stop comparing yourself with anyone. Quit exhausting your energy trying to be like someone else. Each person is different, and there is a lot you don't know about that person and the image they are portraying to the rest of the world. Every body is fighting a different battle, so focus on your own battles and win them. Be an authentic you. Convince yourself that the only person you should strive to better than is the person you were yesterday. And you set out to do this, your self confidence will continue to rise steadily. 
    It was E.E Cummings who said that once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.

    Please, share your own ideas or experience about how you have improved your self confidence.

    Wednesday, 5 November 2014

    Be Kind, to yourself.

    “Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening.” —Lisa M. Hayes

    Choose to be kind to yourself, both in words and deeds. You deserve it.

    To be able to do this, first, rid yourself of any preconceived or judgmental notions about what self-kindness is or what it should look like.

    You are in charge here. In charge of your life and in charge of your choices.
    You should define your worth and define the things that transmit kindness to you, and when you have done so, go ahead and be kind to yourself.

    Most times, society assumes that being kind to yourself is being selfish or self-indulgent. But, nothing can be farther from the truth, because self-kindness keeps us content and helps us give to others and be kinder to the people in our lives. 
    Taking care of ourselves and being both kind and nice to ourselves  sustains our emotional reserve, so it doesn’t empty out so quickly.

    And, in the words of psychotherapist Claudia H. Christian, "self-kindness is applying a generous and warm heart toward yourself to create sympathy and understanding from yourself, for yourself."

    Tuesday, 4 November 2014

    Respect. Cont'd

    In an earlier post, we were talking about respect and how much easier it makes life for us. If you missed it, read it here. 
    Now, let's look at what respect is and what it's not. 

    Respect is Not a Sign of Weakness

    People might think that showing respect is a sign of weakness. But, that is a mistaken notion. Respect doesn’t make you obliged to anybody. When you feel a sense of antipathy towards anyone, it'd be better if you tried to stay calm and emotionally neutral. There's no situation that can not be handled when treated with respect. And, it is always a great pleasure to communicate with people and have relationships built on mutual respect. 

    Showing respect to the people you meet will make them feel, valued, confident and contented and in turn, they will be better people to the people in their lives. It becomes a circle. A healthy one.
    Real weakness is to give way to negative emotions all the time and hurt everyone on your way.

    If you have difficulty respecting others, then you should probably start with showing respect for yourself.
    When you begin to treat yourself with respect, you will become an absolutely confident person, and you will find it easier to reflect the feeling of respect on others, even on the ones that are not on your list of favourite people. 

    Respecting the disagreeable ones might be difficult, but totally worth it. 

    Disagreeable people, just like other life's difficulties are a crucial part of life's wonderful lessons. Everyone knows that people can exert either positive or negative influence on each other. Unfortunately, we tend to focus more on negative experiences than on positive life surprises. Consequently, we learn more lessons from unsuccessful situations. 

    Undoubtedly, when you learn to give respect to the people who you might have genuine reasons to dislike, it is one of those life lessons that qualifies you to rise to the next and higher level.

    When you understand that spreading cheer and joy is better than being a distributor of vile and malicious emotion, you'll discover that being more careful and tactful in words and deeds is worth every effort. After a while, it becomes a habit and a constant motivation to inspire and bless others. 

    You should know that you can not be friends with everybody you meet, you should know that everybody will not like you. And, really it's ok. It is however essential to develop a personalized approach to everyone, knowing everyone is different. You do not have to be friends with them, but you can build and foster good and cordial relationships, based on respect with the world around you. Sometimes it will happen that your respectful treatment will make people change their attitude towards and even if they chose not to, respect their right to that choice.

    Respect is the Best World Currency

    Respect is one of the most important and essential human values that can never be replaced by money or anything else. People usually spend much time searching for respect in order to build a good reputation.
    Wherever you go, whoever you meet and whatever you do, you should never forget about respect. This wondrous value can provide you many chances and opportunities. People’s hearts are open to those who treat them with love and respect.
    There are people who say that if people fear somebody, they’ll respect them. I do not agree with this idea, because only weak, feeble, and cruel people build artificial respect based on fear, deceit  and violence. 
    Obedience and respect might have something in common, but they’re different. Obedience can be reached by threats,  intimidations or a sense of obligation. Respect can exist only in the relationships built on mutual understanding and benevolence.

    Respect should be an essential part of our daily life. This precious value will help us to live life in a greater peace and balance. Respect will provide added support and will act as a springboard in reaching goals and making life easier.

    I hope you realize that respect is the choice of highly strong and confident people. 

    What is respect for you? 
    How do you show respect to the people in your life, even the ones you consider disagreeable or rivals?

    Please, share your thoughts with us.

    Monday, 3 November 2014

    Be like a child. Sometimes.

    We should all observe the children more and try to be more like then, every now and then.
    Pay attention to the way they delight in the simplest pleasure.
    Listen to the joy in their voice as they giggle.
    Notice the gleam in their eyes.
    Remember the honesty with which they express happiness, sadness and disappointment.
    Remember how fleeting each of these emotions are. 
    How they move easily from one to another.
    Reflect on how well their memory work and how easily they sometimes seems to forget every thing negative
    Remind yourself of their enthusiasm.
    Never forget how fast they grow.
    We should never lose sight of the ease with which they learn and unlearn new things.
    And, thus, we should take time off our very busy schedules being adults and sometime be a child.

    Saturday, 1 November 2014

    Words to Live By. 3

    • Count your blessings.
    • Keep your wits about you.
    • Be grateful for whatever you're given.
    • Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
    • You shouldn't take everything personally.
    • Get up. Dress up. And, show up.
    • Hold your heroes and role-models to a high standard.
    • When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
    • Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
    • Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?" Your response should determine your reaction.